Dating after widowhood

12-Apr-2017 02:16 by 7 Comments

Dating after widowhood

So when I became a widow at the age of 48, I was unprepared.I met my husband in my 20s — and my heart still felt that old.

It was like our loose ends, frayed and exposed, had found completion in each other. So I'm trying to figure out sex and its mysterious connection to love.

I don't know if that girl inside me — who gets crushes and often loses her way — will ever disappear. I kind of love that feeling of butterflies in my stomach, even though sometimes it verges on nausea.

Because once you allow your heart to be cracked open again, you never know what's going to happen.

When I was younger, I never imagined what it would be like to be middle-aged.

And I certainly never imagined having to ever date again.

When I told one of my girlfriends about my new sex life, she said, "Good for you for getting back on the horse!

"Another friend said something I took to heart: that as women, we can claim our pleasure without shame, that our sexuality is a gift to be proud of.Unfortunately, I had to put things on hold for a couple of hours while my son and I attended our weekly bereavement group meeting. Sure, I was a little distracted in group that night, but somehow I was able to contain my excitement long enough to get home.I kept my virtual lover waiting just a little bit longer while I put my son to bed.It had been a long time since I did anything like that.To my delight, he picked up on it and kept it going.It was hard to believe we had each kept the spark, not to mention the patience, going for that many hours.

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