Dating during recovery from codependency

03-Dec-2017 11:25 by 10 Comments

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My experience on both sides of the therapy table had led me to believe that in order to be successful, work must be balanced. Visualize a person who is more confident than you are now. If you’re not counting time any more, please share that too!

You can’t remain in the painful past for a great length of time without coming up for air, doing positive affirmations and working on your confidence. Remember what we talk about in GPYP seminars about visualizations. When did you stop needing to know “how long it’s been.” Thanks all and congrats to those picking up chips. NC time is important because it shows us that we do have power and control over what we do and how it affects us.

At the same time you can’t think a happy thought without working through the emotional garbage of the past. Clinical depression MUST be treated, but even if a person doesn’t meet all the DSM criteria for depression, the holidays can trigger a lot of pain if you are working through things and feeling alone. What kinds of behaviors are you engaging in that you don’t like? Start to visualize the next step…not the “self-confident, I rule the world” but the immediate next step…the step from where you are now.would that look like? Before we go onto the chips, these are the reasons we count chips: 1) to reward ourselves for doing it. If we say “I have 30 days of NC” it’s up to you to know if that is an honest count or not. Talk about how long you’ve been NC and what it’s been like for you.

Continue reading Back in the days of GPYP seminars, we worked on breaking down goals and the action steps to get there into small, manageable bits. What feelings from the past come up when you’re under stress? It’s a big deal and needs to be treated like a big deal. 3) if you’ve been maintaining a good stretch of NC but fell short in the past, write about your struggles and how you overcame them. Don’t set yourself up by counting NC time when you are not NC. It’s about knowing you have control over your life and your impulses. I would also suggest, in the way of being good to you, to BUY yourself an actual chip, a real chip and keep it on your dresser/bureau or some other prominent place as a reminder of how WELL you are doing.

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If you want a document with links and descriptions of all the You Tube videos go HERE Go here to sign up: coming off a breakup and not yet ready to date but who need to RESHAPE the tone and tenor of their relationships 2. Because I have worked, FOR MANY YEARS, with all of the above. Past Your Breakup See you there!!! people stepping back out into dating after a devastating breakup 3. Continue reading It’s nice to be “wine’d and dine’d” but it’s not all about the glitz. My rule of thumb is to let the man pay for the first 2 or 3 dates because it relieves everyone of expectations and “what do we do? It’s important to mark those milestones…no matter how big or how small…so we’re talking NO CONTACT..if you’re having issues, share them here and let us know. If you’re struggling with it, it’s important and if you’re succeeding with it, it’s important.

If you’ve had a recent breakup or life isn’t exactly where you want it to be, being thankful for what you do have is a tough one. You DO NOT want someone who is cheap or where you’re paying for the dates (or putting gas in your own car if you were the one who drove there ESP if you’re the woman! ” After the 2nd or 3rd date, the woman should offer to pay for a tip or gas or something like that (if you go bowling and dinner, she can pay for the shoe rental or something…something and offer it. If you’re succeeding, tell us how and come and get your chip!!!! How it works is you report your NC time in comments and it’s good to share how you are doing it and also what you are going to do to reward yourself. We have many struggling with NC so please share your NC success and the benefits of NC.